They Won’t Change: The Relationship Truth You’re Ignoring
Just over a week ago, I hopped on Instagram Stories after reading a comment that was left on a recent YouTube video. One woman shared how she’s always approached life with a positive, expansive mindset… but her husband? The complete opposite—narrow, negative, and draining.
If you’ve ever tried to change someone—or thought they’d “get better” over time—this one’s going to hit close. Let’s talk about the relationship truth you’re ignoring when we’re dating, what we tolerate in relationships, and why “believe them when they show you who they are” might just be the truest relationship advice you’ll ever hear.
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06/06/2025I have had a relationship with my sister-in-law for many years that I have decided to change. First I must say that we have absolutely nothing in common other than the fact that she married my brother. I worked in a great field for decades, love cooking, home decor, fashion, travel, you name it. She on the other hand sits and stares out a window instead of taking an interest in anything. I did all holidays and other family cooking projects, for 35 years until recently. I finally realized that I was doing all the work, and she did nothing to help. One time I waited to contact her before a holiday, and she called me at my office to say she hadn’t heard from me, and if I didn’t have the dinner she was going out of town. My husband said to let her go. I had waited because I wanted to see if she would step up for the first time. What did I do? Well, of course I said I would. My parents were still alive at that time, and I certainly didn’t want to hurt them in any way. Don’t get me wrong, we have never had a cross word between us. It finally occurred to me that I always contacted her with an invitation, funny story, or to see how she was. I stopped doing this after my husband suddenly died, and I decided to put myself first for the very first time. My daughter and I are very close, and I spend all holidays with her and family. I would say that sometimes we need to reevaluate relationships, and while not cut people out or have a big blowup, simply look at the facts and take a step back.