Down days. You know what they are. We all have them. They are just a normal part of life.
It’s Monday night. Or maybe it’s Tuesday morning. I really don’t know. I quit looking at the clock a couple hours ago. You see, I am writing this blog post on yet another sleepless night. It’s hormone related. I’m pretty used to it by now. But being used to it, doesn’t make it any easier. It also doesn’t make it easier when it is accompanied with one of those Down Days. Yesterday (Monday) was one of those days. I don’t have Down Days very often. I like to think of myself as pretty upbeat and positive. But like clock-work, I have at least one Down Day, per month. It’s also a day where I have a headache, neck pain, extreme fatigue, stomach cramps with bloating, and believe it or not .. aching in my upper thighs. I know, very strange. It’s quite the doozy. I try to talk myself out of these symptoms and the down effect that accompany them, but I am yet to be able to snap out if it. During my Down Days, I just plug a long as best I can and continue to accomplish everything, for the most part, as I would have on a normal day … all the while, being down.
Before we get any further, I should mention; you won’t find any pictures or any links in this blog post. I’m actually not even on my computer, but rather sitting and typing this on my phone. Me and my aching thighs are planted in a big non-cozy chair surrounded by Mother’s Day Brunch decorations. The room is pitch black and the house is a soundless calm, except for once in awhile when the furnace kicks on. I am sitting next to a big tall window and can see the tops of the trees outside reaching up to the few stars that are out. I think it’s setting up to be a sunny day tomorrow (or today) … however you want to look at it.
Down Days are a real downer, aren’t they? Over the past several years, I have tried to make a real effort in finding ‘good’ in anything ‘bad’ that comes my way, including Down Days. After-all they are going to happen. Bad days are going to come, bad situations are going to happen, and frankly bad people are going to come across our path. The best thing that we can do is, continue to make good from it. Accept being down, but not let it get us down … if that makes sense. Realize it will be over, tomorrow will be better and continue to be kind as you continue to work through it. Choose to handle these unfortunate predicaments with dignity and poise. Take what’s bad and utilize it for something good, like learning lessons, or practice to be a better you.
These ‘Down Days’, generally come equipped with no energy to do anything above and beyond what is absolutely necessary. We can’t exactly take a day off because we’re down. Can you imagine how that would go over with your boss, children or kids? “Sorry, I can’t make it in today, because I’m down!” Nor can we call in sick because we didn’t sleep the night before. Our hormonal flare-ups aren’t worthy of a paid sick day … even though they take a toll on our physical & mental state, worse than most illnesses do.
What we can do on the ‘Down Days’ is accept them. Accept that they are normal. Accept that, although we may not feel it, we are normal too! There is nothing wrong with us! I am learning to take the bad in these ‘Down Days’ and make them into something good. Something to learn from. I pray more on these down days and especially on these sleepless nights. I pray that my girls never have to go through this. I pray they sail right through peri-menopause, like many women do. I reflect more during these incidents. A lot of times, hurtful things from my past … even as a child will come up, or hurtful things my kids or husband have said to me will surface. I don’t fight these painful things as much as I used to. In the past, I would fight my inner critic. But, I’ve realized that there is a reason these things surface during these down moments. I’m sure being a little delusional from the lack of sleep and the raging headache don’t help matters. But something good always comes from this bad. I am learning from these things that surface. Learning to continue growing and being better and stronger. To be more forgiving, not only of others, but myself included. To be more accepting and more resilient. Most of all to take what’s bad, and make it good.
Thanks for being here, and listening! Sometimes we just need a good friend to lean on. To say, “Yep, I get it!” It’s nice being re-assured that we are normal. That even us happy, upbeat people have our down days. On that note, something positive did come from my down day and my insomnia. I believe sharing is caring, and it’s also therapeutic. I am also now sleepy. To bed I head, and hopefully I won’t be a complete zombie tomorrow. But if I am, I will find something good out of the bad that was handed my way.
The next time you have a ‘Down Day’, remember that you are not alone. And whatever you do, don’t let it get you down.
Sweet Dreams Everyone! Or maybe, it’s more like Good Morning! xo